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    How to Lose Ego


Most people are overly familiar with that sly voice in their heads telling them what they can’t do instead of what they can. That voice is the sound of your ego speaking. More often than not, ego convinces a person that he/she has to work alone so that he/she may seem strong and not stupid. It tells you that you already know what needs to be done and prevents you from asking for help when needed. This is an absurd unnatural concept that ego forces us to believe in.

Personal evaluation and accountability measure your capabilities and weakness so that you will be able to make intelligent decisions in your life. But ego is a dark demon that tells you that judgmental behavior is good for you. It beats you up for every little mistake that you have done in the past. It revisits all of the haunting and embarrassing moments in your life now and again to prevent you from moving forward.

Ego has a habit of hindering your ability to succeed in your life and keeps you in a constant state of victimhood. Your ego makes you believe that you are a victim of some sort of dire injustice. You need to understand victimhood, how it acts and what you should do to move beyond it. Victimhood is as debilitating as substance abuse. Constant complaining is one subtle form of victimization. You need to learn to accept the fact that people can’t be changed and figure out a way to work past it.

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The reality of where you are at the moment holds a great deal of importance when it comes to personal accountability. If you are discontented with your present state, like your job for example, you need to look at the bigger picture and come up with a plan to get back on the path that leads to your passions and dreams. There are countless examples of people who have given up their jobs and have taken up less than ideal ones to pursue their dreams, to make opportunities for themselves to do what they love the most. But this doesn’t mean that their life has gotten any easier. On the contrary, wading out through life to get to one’s dream destination is a demanding and arduous task. But it helps you accept reality and still do what you love.

There will always be people to hear about the problems of your life. You will look for people who will sympathize with your troubles, and it will make you blind to the toxic attitude people can exhibit. It might even push the healthy relationships out of your life and make you look down on yourself. At one point, you will have to come to terms with the reality that life is hard. Always was and always will be. When you do, it will liberate you and enable you start living your life properly.

Victim thinking is a manifestation of our fear of failure and being exposed. It makes you weak and incapable to take actions thus letting other people take control of your life. Then you blame them as though you had no other choice in your life. You need to learn to control your ego and learn to take responsibility for your actions, the good or the bad. Taking the accountability for your actions and acknowledging the consequences your actions can have on your life is one way of countering your ego. Accept the fact that you are the CEO of your life, and you will be able to pave the way to success with your own hands.

Thank you.
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